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Can You Change Somebody?

You see somebody. You don't like what you see, for example his/her values, attitude, and the like. You said to yourself. I can change him/her.

You know what... You CANNOT!

S/he must change her/himself. You cannot change somebody. Especially if that person is not willing to change.

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Baka Kelana said…
It is true ... we can not change someone unless they want to change
5:37 PM
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